In January 2021, I launched the next chapter of my life and work: How to Love—a podcast about relationships, sex, and parenting, hosted by yours truly and my husband, Joshua Fields Millburn. And for eight months, I didn’t write a blog post about it.
I was scared. I was having long unfiltered conversations about topics most people avoid with my husband and publishing them for the world to listen to… I’ve got to be crazy to do that! A small part of my subconscious thought that if I wrote a blog post about the podcast it was more “out in the world” and that was intimidating. But with time I’ve grown far more comfortable with it all and while I occasionally get a little self-conscious sharing this level of intimacy, it has been rewarding and lots of fun.
Joshua and I started How to Love because we noticed a lack of honest conversation happening within the intersection of unconventional romantic relationships, sexual expression, and parenting. There’s a lot of pressure placed on couples in western societies to follow a specific template when it comes to dating, sex, marriage, and children, and when you don’t conform it can be confusing and isolating.
In each episode of How to Love, Joshua and I explore our relationship, dive deeply into issues that are up for us, do a lot of flirting and laughing, and we answer listener questions on relationships, sex, and parenting. The full long-form private podcast episodes are available exclusively on Patreon as we discuss sensitive and explicit content with a level of candor you won’t hear anywhere else. Once you become a Patron you’ll receive a private RSS feed link that you can enter into your favorite podcast player or you can listen directly on Patreon.
If you’d like to hear a little of How to Love but aren’t yet willing to make the dive into supporting our work on Patreon, we also launched public “quickie” episodes—10-30 minute stand-alone snippets from the full private episodes. Think of the “quickies” as playful foreplay for the good stuff waiting for you behind the paywall.